My mood is so fragile it’s ridiculous. It can take a while to bring myself up to a point where I’m in a good mood (although occasionally it happens spontaneously - like last night when I got asked about autochorissexualism). But literally all it takes is one thing. One post, or one sentence, or one comment and I’m just like…. oh. okay.
It doesn’t even have to be a negative post. Sometimes just a discussion of an issue, or somebody disagreeing with me, however politely, or sometimes even things as ridiculous as my mum asking me to do something, like wash up.
And suddenly it’s all gone, and I just feel miserable again. I don’t feel overly sad; I’m not upset enough to cry, or left feeling completely numb. It’s like I’m just left dangling in the murky, miserable inbetween places, drifting somewhere between apathy and sadness.
And it makes me wonder what is it that’s lurking beneath the surface of superficial emotions to always bring me back to a miserable place once the thin layer of whatever-mood-I’m-in has been shattered?
I think the ‘women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it’ bit sums up 90% of sexism in one sentence.
a derogatory slur for a masculine woman
how do you…how do you think women are rewarded for being masculine??? like at all? and don’t you realize that the only reason why women aren’t being beaten in the streets for acting masculine is because of the work of 50 years of feminism????
reblogging for commentary
reblogging for commentary as well.
It’s more complicated than binary; ciswomen are rewarded for certain masculine-coded behaviors and punished for others in a completely arbitrary fashion. It’s totally awesome if she’s ‘one of the guys’ in that she can drink beer/hard liquor and watch sports and not be ‘high maintenance’ or into that gross boring ‘girly stuff’ - but she also has to retain perfect and effortless femininity while doing all of this ’ awesome guy stuff’. She has to be nonthreatening to masculinity while also not being abhorrently feminine because femininity is weak and stupid and exists to be derided. It’s awesome if your thin, conventionally-attractive, long-haired girlfriend likes watching football, but actual female football players are gross dykes. Especially if they’re better at it than you.
Also, point: “dyke” is not a slur for a masculine woman. It’s an implication that she is a lesbian. A woman is allowed to be (and encouraged to be) as masculine as possible so long as that masculinity means she is appealing to men. This is why being “one of the guys” is OK (because it increases her appeal to men) but doing things like not shaving her legs or wearing unflattering clothing isnot OK, because it means she is no longer considered sexually appealing.
Masculinity in women is allowed only to the point that they are still considered fuckable.
Just..the commentary is A+
I really just need to reblog this whole thing every month or so because it keeps getting awesome and entirely accurate commentary put in.
The one thing that always gets me with this quote is the “new kind of sexism” like, uh, I’m 98% sure that this ain’t new. At all. It’s just part of what is at the bones of the ages-old sexism we still got going, and that is slowly being stripped away so its becoming more evident, at most. The favouring of men over women (which STILL HAPPENS needless to say) had masculinity over femininity packaged in with it and, in centuries past, you could even argue that that aspect was the more evident one. Other than that, I do love this quote.
It doesn’t cost a damn thing.
Sprinkle that shit everywhere.
imagine reading a book of all the lies you’ve told
IDK what kind of lives you all are leading, but this sounds like the boringest shit. “Yes I sent that email.” “Yeah, I like your outfit.” “I was sick.” “My mom said no” “No I wasn’t crying.” “Yes I read the Terms of Service”
what about a book of all the lies people have told you
Oh how the tables have tabled
Tables have tabled
no but realLY OMG THAT AU IDEA IS SO FREAKIN GREAT!!! like…. one night stand before an interview and then turns out they’re your interviewer/interviewee… that’s SUCH A FREAKIN GOOD IDEA
i would watch that movie. i would read that. i want that. i want the thing!
somebody make the thing.
WHEN U LOVE SOMETHING SO HARD BUT THE FANDOM CONSISTS OF APPROXIMATELY SIX OTHER PEOPLE AND A SHOELACE