Started watching Manifest and like any sci fi show where a person has been missing for years and presumed dead and their SO has moved on and met someone else but then they come back… obviously that’s an invisible complex and difficult and emotive situation
But like… you don’t have to choose. I promise, it is in fact entirely possible to love more than one person at a time and your love for one doesn’t diminish your love for the other.
I know polyamory isn’t for everyone but like…. You should at least consider it
This was on a post discussing shit parents doing a new satanic panic. Valid points all around but. But I’m crying. This is the funniest lie ever, no parody I could come up with this will be this funny. Nonbinary Julius Cesar
“trans men don’t experience misogyny because they’re men thus cannot experience women’s oppression”
I hate to tell you this but even cis men experience misogyny if they step a toe over the line of what our incredibly sexist society sees as “proper” for a man. You really don’t think that a man with interests or expression the world sees as “female” aren’t treated with violence?
“would you say that of other privileged groups? do you think white people experience racism?”
I mean sometimes they do yeah. I know a white guy with monolid eyes and zero known Asian ancestors and he absolutely experiences anti-Asian racism on a fairly regular basis because people think he’s mixed Asian/white. I know a woman who was told throughout her life that she was Native as an adoptee with no known history or background who experienced incredibly violent amounts of anti-Native racism until she discovered as an adult through DNA test that she is 100% white. I know white people who tan incredibly dark in the summer comparatively that are constantly accused of being mixed race and experiencing racism due to that, usually anti-Mexican racism perpetrated against white people with Greek or Italian ancestors.
Their ability to make it stop by saying “hey, I’m white actually” only goes as far as the person enacting violence on them is willing to believe them. They still have to live with the trauma and physical scars from the altercations. We live in a racist world and thus there will be violent people who force all others to pass a whiteness test and eliminating or harming the rest.
Got an ask that I just block/deleted but it was basically “so you think cis people experience transphobia!?!?!?!?” and uh
If you think cis butches don’t experience both transphobia and misogyny and homophobia for daring to be women who break gender roles while still holding onto their womanhood you’ve sorely misunderstood just how bad butches have it in this world sorry. If you don’t think cis queens experience transphobia and homophobia and misogyny for daring to be men who break gender roles while being loud and proud about it and still holding onto their manhood then you’ve sorely mistaken just how bad they have it in this world as well.
Not to mention all of the cis men who wear dresses and skirts and makeup and nail polish and heels simply because they like them who experience all of these things. All of the cis straight women who simply just exist but something about them doesn’t pass society’s “woman enough” test, leading to them being caught in bathroom bills and sporting rules and being attacked by people who mistake them for being transgender or gay.
Just like how straight people experience homophobia to such a degree that they literally beat their children out of any potential deviance from rigidly upheld gender roles and let politicians make jokes on national TV about how they’d drown their pre-teen kids if they came out as LGBT. Do you really think a straight kid still figuring themselves out hears that and doesn’t internalize that homophobia? Doesn’t rigidly hold themselves to some impossible standard so that no one could ever possibly think they’re gay? You don’t think straight teenage boys who maybe don’t pass some bully’s straightness test are getting the shit kicked out of them for “being gay” when, surprise, they aren’t? You don’t think all those kids being attacked by their priests and coaches and teachers are being told “this wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t gay” when they’re literally not gay? Do you know how many straight kids had close calls at my school that famously expels all gay kids, because someone made up a believable enough rumor? Do you know how many of them still got their shit kicked in even though administration ultimately decided to let them stay?
All bigotry is violent and all bigotry catches people it doesn’t “intend” to and hurts them as well. It doesn’t matter what someone’s label is, or if they even have one. It matters if the person enacting the violence is doing it because their victim didn’t pass whatever “acceptable enough” test they didn’t know they were being subjected to.
Everyone is at risk. Oppression doesn’t care what your label is. Some people are more visible targets than others, and as a result those people are the more common targets. That doesn’t mean no one else experiences it.
My first post to reach 2k without people clowning in the notes I feel so proud
At 40.5k I regret to inform everyone that there have been so many clowns in the notes, I might as well call it a circus. It was fun while it lasted I guess.
Anyway this is just how hate crimes and systems of oppression works, literally the legal definition of a hate crime deliberately states that it doesn’t matter what the victim’s identity is, it matters what the perpetrator’s reason was, so people who are not [oppressed group] absolutely can be victims of [violence towards oppressed group] and have it be labeled a hate crime. Hope that helps.
“Misdirected” misogyny (or any other form of oppression) is still oppression and the fact that it was misdirected doesn’t really mean much.
So I’m finally watching The Orville and absolutely loving it and I got to my favourite episode so far - A Tale of Two Topas. And I have a lot of thoughts and feelings…
On the one hand it has the issue that every sci-fi metphor or allegory for real world issues has where it doesn’t translate perfectly. I think a lot of transphobes would still like the story because Topa was born female and changed without her knowledge or consent as an infant because of the misogynistic culture she was born into.
But then I don’t think these stories necessarily have to be perfect allegories. The fact that Topa’s story obviously resonates with a lot of intersex and trans people doesn’t mean the writers are intending to create a perfect metaphor for the trans experience, they’re just exploring an interesting topic of sex and gender in different alien cultures.
The thing that was lovely about it was how all the crew instantly switched to using the right pronouns the moment Topa told them she is a girl. I also liked how Klyden was a massive cunt and left at the end tbh because that’s how a lot of trans stories go. Like she’s lost her dad and literally been told “I wish you were never born” but she wouldn’t take it back for the world because she’s finally feeling like herself and she’s got a supportive family around her in the crew.
“biblical angels” you do realise there are angels in the old testament that are literally just regular looking guys, right? you do know that the hallucinogenic incoherent descriptions are in like. two books. and the rest of the time angels are just guys. you know that, right?
and I’m not saying don’t have fun with weird angels. I’m saying, either the eldritch forms are for special occasions, or the society of the angels is Many-Eyed-Many-Winged-Interlocking-Circles, Four-Faces-Six-Wings, and Mike.
pro-tip for your mental health but also in general. get involved with your environment. learn the plants that are native. plant them. learn what species are invasive. learn the insects. learn the reptiles. get involved with societies or conservatories (vet them first). eat something you’ve grown. get involved locally. get more nature around you.
I HATE DATAMINING I HATE 2FA I HATE CONFIRMING MY EMAIL I HATE (*REQUIRED) I HATE COOKIES I HATE GIVING MY FIRST AND LAST NAME I HATE SIGNING IN WITH GOOGLE I HATE DOWNLOADING THE APP I HATE ALLOWING APPS ACCESS TO MY FILES MY SOCIAL MEDIA MY CAMERA I HATE TARGETED ADS
“you don’t like the proliferation of terms like Unalive outside of TikTok because you realize that you’re aging out of youth culture and it makes you uncomfortable!”
no I don’t like it because there’s something INCREDIBLY dystopian about being forced to soften terms for basic parts of the human experience like death and sex (and even more so terms for oppressed minorities- call me a “le-dollar sign-bian” and I will bite you) purely because advertisers and corporations demand it
The idea that young people are getting used to not being able to speak in public about sex, queerness etc without talking around censors, and see this as normal and not a problem, scares me tbh.
The fact that people are so comfortable with being censored that they Voluntarily censor themselves on words and topics that aren’t even being limited is a terrifying sign
